I have a good relationship wih my boyfriend while my friend has an on/off relationship with her guy. I'm happy with what I have even if I live a very simple life. She lives a luxurious life but I can see she's not really happy, she may smile but I know it's nothing. It's not pure happiness. Our lives are totally opposite. There are a lot of situations where I proved that she wanted to make us break up. Actually, she's done it already with my previous boyfriend. With my previous boyfriend, she also made reasons so that we'll break up. I feel like she wants to be the only "happy" one. She doesn't want her friends to be happy. Envy is the hidden emotion, I know she envies my relationship with my boyfriend. I've always told myself that if I ever needed to choose between boyfriend and friend/s I'd choose friends. But not in this situation, I'm good friends with my boyfriend too, so I'll choose my him. My friendship with her is transparent, she only calls me when she doesn't have a companion of some sort. I am able to confide myself better with others than with her. She never listens to any advice I give, she thinks people's worlds revolve around her. She's kind of self centered. She's demanding too! When she calls and invites me for coffee and I decline, she'll huff.
WHAT SHOULD I DO WITH HER? I'M TIRED WITH TRYING TO PRETEND LIKE SHE'S A GOOD FRIEND. :( Help please!
So, dear Annie,
It looks like you have a tough decision to make here.
From what you said, it seems like your friend has a lot of jealousy towards you and your happy relationship due to her unsuccessful one she has now.
If you think she has gone too far by trying to cause you to lose your own happiness, and if you feel that this is causing you to lose trust in her, then maybe it’s best to give her some space and time. And if it’s causing you to possibly rethink a perfectly good relationship, then its definitely a good idea to stay with him.
If you value your friendship with this girl, and you feel like she needs a little help, maybe it would be wise to talk to her about it. I mean, If you just leaver her in the dark and not tell her why, then she’ll play the victim and think you left her for your boyfriend. You have to remember that she is your friend, and she is hurting in this situation. Maybe you should talk to her about getting out of her own unsuccessful raltionship. If she finds someone who is good for her, or even leaves the one who isn’t best for her, then maybe the envy in her will dissipate.
I definitely agree that you should do whatever it takes to keep yourself happy, but if this girl was/is a really good friend of yours, than i think maybe you should think about helping her be happy too. c:
Anne Hathaway was raised a Catholic with what she considered "really strong values," and has stated she wanted to be a nun during her childhood. However, she decided against it at the age of 15, after learning that her brother, Michael, was gay; she felt that she could not be part of a religion that condemned her brother's sexual orientation.